I remember reading that your true soulmate is just a reflection, and they are meant to teach you something about yourself. And then exit. That the person you are supposed to spend the rest of your life together is someone different, because living forever with your soulmate is too painful.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit…But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…” ―Elizabeth Gilbert
And I get that, oddly enough. It is like you’re in a vast ocean, struggling to emerge from the water. There are thousands of people with you, trying to do the same thing. Suddenly a body surfaces next to you, gasping for air. As you make eye contact, this feeling of utter awareness comes over your person.
This is your soulmate. You are bound to each other, and as you sink, so does your mate. As they swim, you are pulled behind.
But then you see a sailboat in the distance, and someone is scooping you up from the water. They lay you down in the boat, and let you sleep as they sail.
This is your beloved. Soulmates will stay with you in the water–beloveds will throw you a life preserve.
This might seem ridiculous, but I feel like I’ve already met my soulmate. Or one of them, I suppose. He was so beautiful yet small. And I can’t describe it as anything other than that. Our ‘relationship’ lasted a month, and it was hell. I learned it was possible to feel so much you drown.
Of course, I’ve been accused of being too passionate, too emotional. I take things to heart. And that’s so true–I don’t understand the meaning of casual. I don’t understand this world where everyone texts instead of calls, looks at a screen instead of each other. To me, relationships should be intimate, not fleeting things that drift on and off depending upon the mood. There is no such thing as casual intimacy.
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